I don’t know how I came to this essay by the poet Tishani Doshi, on the death of her dog. It feels like a long time, the time in which I’m reading it.
I think of Şımarık, of course.
We cover her with sand, leave her bowl beside her.
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But I think too, because it is an essay that was written at the end of 2020, of everywhere else the essay goes. Is still going.
I think of earlier this year, when I shared a poem in a workshop. It was one of those poems that we, some of us, have been writing or anyway trying to write, for a while now. One of those ways in which we keep trying to make sense of the massiveness of what has happened, and what is maybe still happening. What even the what, is.
Some day I will post the poem. But in the meantime, here is Doshi:
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I think of that phenomenon in The Sense of an Ending by Julian Barnes—a river rushing nonsensically upstream, its wave and wash lit by half a dozen chasing torchbeams:
Except of course, now, this. More than minutes.
More than now.
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What happens when anticipatory grief meets itself downriver…? Or when a tidal bore makes for a river that returns, momentarily, to wash over what it was? When we stop like we do sometimes, at these thresholds between one year and the next? When we turn to look at the people we were back then — look, they’re floating so close you could almost reach out and touch them. Those people who worried about all of us, here and now. How we’d manage. How many of us, would be left.
The work of survival is the work of mourning…
…but what you end up remembering isn’t always the same as what you have witnessed.
Who we would have become.
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